Crossposted at livejournal

Howdy everyone! *waves around*

I have been reading through my f-list, activity which I havent done in quite a long while (shame on me), but it makes me partly sad  and partly happy to realize some things.

The thing that made me happy was that even with lots of things happening in your lives guys, you are still the same persons I know and trust and adore and view as friends and  on the other hand the thing that makes me sad is that sometimes even though we are kinda close and intimate, some of us dont feel like we really have someone next to us.
Someone we can really trust and feel free to say anything without being afraid of rejection or anything like that!!!

I just want to say to everyone on my f-list, that honestly there isnt anything that you could tell me about yourselves that could make me like you any less or see or treat you differently.

We are always the same but have different faces for the different people we interact with.
It's not a matter of hypocrisy or anything. But i can totally understand the distinction we make even subconsciounsly!

We can be great friends but louzy sisters. We can be good parents but inadequate employees! and its totally acceptable!!! We cant be perfect at everything but it's our same flaws (and the the urge we have to get rid of them) that constitute our mere essence! This is what makes us human!!!

I know this all sound really good but definately random.
It's not really random.
I just noticed that a person in my f-list is feeling (a)really depressed and (b)that everyone, every other person is looking down at her, always making her feel bad about who she is!!!
She feels like no one will give her any attention and is sick of always being the one to initiate conversation!!

I understand that this is very hard and I have been through something similar but I got through it by showing who I really am and trying to attract attention -not in a bad way but i just initiated conversations in the begininning and then people started seeking me out and wanting to discuss with me!

Other people might be afraid too, or timid. Yes, I understand that them being bored or just uninterested is also a possibility but it's in our hands to try and win them over. It will take a while though!!

I suggested that she tries to talk to people about trivial stuff first. Just making polite jokes and remarks as she met someone or something.
Even silly ones like that:
(Quote)
Make sure you are the first to make a comment a pleasant one. Even if it is about the weather. Appear cheerful and funny as much as you can.
If you meet someone for the 5th time in the elevator make a comment like oesnt this elevator make the strangest noises or what? I am glad I am with another person! " and then laugh...Anything to make them see you are joking but then want the to participate in the fun, discussion or whatever!!!
Think of funny ways to initiate conversations!!! (end of quote)

What are your thoughts guys? Any other ways to make friends or at least have people start talking to her